Tuesday, April 13

Attraction 101: Part One

Every conversation starts with a smile, every relationship a spark and every divorce, a golf club.

In any social interaction we carry out in our daily routine from getting a bag of cookies at the supermarket to test driving out a new car, there is always a catalyst that makes or breaks the unspoken bond between two people.

The one factor that separates a man and a woman from either being platonic friends or living in the throes of passion is just one:


But before we go on, let me attribute a friend of mine who summarised beautifully what attraction was about.

"A guy and a girl can never be more than platonic friends if there is something about the other person that they absolutely detest."

Although crude and rough around the edges, ultimately she drives home the point of the post today. So, how do you attract the opposite gender, specifically the lady sitting five rows in front of you during lecture who has barely acknowledged you all semester?

You cannot. Attraction is not an ingredient that you can buy off the racks and chuck at someone. To quote David DeAngelo, attraction is not a choice. People discuss the so-called X Factor, a magical brew of strong chins and blue eyes designed to melt the heart of any unsuspecting female passer by, and the occasional male.

The mythical X Factor is just that; a myth. Attraction can generally be boiled down to 3 basic components.

1. Looks
2. Status
3. Personality

In this post, we'll delve into looks.

Show me a woman who claims that looks do not matter when it comes to her significant other and I'll show you a man who enjoys talking about nail polish.

Women are horny, and dare I say it, much hornier than the supposed kings of horns themselves, men. Unleash a gaggle of women in a Chippendale's dance revue and they will scream the house down every single time a hint of an ab shows.

I'm not saying that you have to look like them, although it does help. However, do take the time to give yourself a once-over in the mirror before you head out to meet the world. Shop for clothes that suit your frame and invest in a haircut. The most important activity that you can indulge in that pays off in the future is to head to the gym.

Women cannot love an emaciated leprechaun or an oversized sack of potatoes. Do not give excuses that you have no time or you do not want to look freakishly big. It takes years of dedication and hard work to reach anywhere near the stature of Arnold Schwarzenegger, let alone some steroid-guzzling bodybuilder.

Going twice a week for an hour or so each time helps immensely. You might be wondering what kind of exercises to do in the gym. Personally, I follow an adapted version of Starting Strength, a workout routine designed to make you grow stronger. There are many kinds of workout routines designed for any type of person. Here are two I highly recommend:

Westside for Skinny Bastards

Starting Strength

"There are no ugly women, only lazy ones." - Helena Rubinstein

This is even more true for men. Take more time in presenting yourself and you'll be surprised at the results.

In the next post, we'll talk about status and the how the female mind is genetically wired to be attracted to the alpha male, just like the king of the jungle.



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