Saturday, April 24

Attraction 101: Part Three

"A man is but the product of his thoughts. What he thinks, he becomes." - Mahatma Gandhi

Personality is an oft-misused word, often thrown around to describe someone who you're attracted to or repulsed by. Yet, when you ask someone to describe their personality, all they can come up with is a generic mix of terms like fun, loving, charismatic, etc.

What exactly is personality?

The dictionary defines it as the characteristics and traits that make up a person. Essentially, your personality is the part components of your whole. When God, or a cluster bomb of colliding atoms; whichever school of thought you belong to, made you, he took a bunch of personalities and threw it at you, hoping one decided to stick.

You can be a charismatic, fun-loving and optimistic person or a dowdy, depressing and moody organism. Whatever you become, it influences the people you mix with and the social circle you will become part of.

In Part Two of the Attraction 101 series, we touched on status and ended with how personality can mold your status.

Status is normally associated with confidence. When you have confidence, you are the king. How do you portray confidence? You lead the men.

Personality & The Men

Let me throw out an example for you that differentiates the gladiators from the meek, in the context of our sunny island Singapore.

During a lecture, the lecturer might ask a question. In Singapore, this will normally fall on deaf ears as all the students glance at each other, hoping someone would raise their hand and answer so that they can continue their meaningless existence of writing down notes and being invisible. A strong personality would raise their hand and answer, even if the answer might be wrong.

In the workplace, when you believe that you've been misunderstood or misjudged, stand up for what you believe in instead of taking it lying down.

A strong personality is very attractive to most women. There is a difference between being someone strong and being a male chauvinist pig. Respect the opinions of others, even if you might disagree with them.

"I disapprove of what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it." - Hall

Personality & The Women


Women love fun. Ignore the claims that women want a stable relationship; 2 kids, a house and a white picket fence. Why do you think married women stray?

Of course, being irresponsible is not what we are aiming for. Instead, be a stable person with a penchant for unpredictability and nonsense. You don't have to start base jumping off the office buildings in Shenton Way to be fun.

Try your hand at new activities that you never thought you would do. Take a month off, drive up to Thailand and backpack your way down. Life is made richer by your experiences.

In the dating world, do not settle for the movie and dinner date, most possibly the most overused dating combo in history. Do something different. Take her out cable skiing. Bring her to the theme park. Go to the zoo and act like children again.

Every man dies. Not every man really lives.


Check out Part One and Part Two of the Attraction 101 trilogy if you missed it.

Overhauled your personality? Time to overhaul your conversational skills with Conversational Jujitsu: Part One, Part Two and Part Three.

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The Dark Knight said...

I think I'm Batman! Heh. :crazy:

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